Unlock Your Mind

Imagine if you could unlock your mind! 

How Hypnotherapy Can Help You Break Free from Stress and Anxiety

Welcome to a space where the chaos of your mind can finally find a bit of peace.

If you are reading this, then chances are you are struggling with stress or anxiety or you know someone who is.

 You’ve tried everything from mindfulness apps to self-help books, only to find that your worries keep hitting the “snooze” button in your head and never really go away. Let me reassure you, you are not alone, I hear this type of thing from clients every day and there is hope.

As a solution focused hypnotherapist with a passion for helping clients break free from anxiety, I have got something that might just work for you. 

No, it’s not a magic wand (although that would be super) a scientifically backed, brain-friendly approach to managing stress. 

Why Your Brain Acts Like an Over-caffeinated Squirrel. 🐿️ 

Stress and anxiety can feel a bit like having an over-caffeinated squirrel running around in your brain. 

Hah, this reminds me of an incident about 12 years ago when I lived in london, and an actual squirrel fell in through the sky light of my flat, it was about 3am, it just banged into my kitchen, bless him, he was so scared,  he ran around like crazy trying to get back out! It was all fine.

That’s another story. 😊

So, back to you, you try to focus on one thing, but your thoughts dart off in every direction, sometimes without warning. This happens because stress hijacks your brain’s amygdala, the part responsible for the fight, flight, freeze response. Your amygdala, in its quest to keep you safe, has started seeing danger in everything: deadlines, crowded spaces, social situations, or even just an unexpected email.

Now, it’s important to know that this part of your brain is not cruel, it is just trying to protect you from a perceived threat. The problem is, when you are in a constant state of stress, your brain does not get the memo that the threat is not as serious as it thinks. This is where hypnotherapy comes in, it helps give your brain the memo!

Hypnosis and your brain are a team effort, when you enter a state of hypnosis, your brain goes into a deeply relaxed, focused state called theta brainwaves, the same state you are in during daydreaming or just before you fall asleep. Hypnotherapy simply taps into this relaxed state to help rewire those stressful thought patterns.

Using a combination of relaxation techniques and positive suggestions, I work with your brain’s prefrontal cortex the rational, decision-making part. While you are deeply relaxed, we can start to “declutter” those automatic negative responses that lead to stress and anxiety, tricking your brain into calmness.

If you have ever struggled with anxiety, you know it can feel like you are stuck in quicksand, the more you struggle, the deeper you sink. But what if, instead of fighting the quicksand, you could calmly float out of it?

When you can see anxiety not as something overpowering, but as something you can manage or even “outsmart,” then it loses its grip.

   I specialise in solution focused hypnotherapy, so we do not dwell on the past or dig into why you started feeling this way in the first place. Instead, we focus on how you want to feel and how we can get you there. Think of it as decluttering your mental attic. Instead of going through every box to figure out where all the junk came from, we focus on clearing out the clutter so you can breathe again.

Here is an example of how this works from a previous client:

Sarah’s Story: Sarah (not her real name) came to me overwhelmed by stress at work. Her mind was constantly racing, filled with “what-ifs” that made it impossible to concentrate. During our sessions, we worked on helping her brain realise that not every email was a fire alarm and that it was okay to breathe before reacting. Within a few sessions, Sarah reported feeling more in control and even found herself laughing at situations that used to make her panic.

Studies show that hypnotherapy can lower the levels of cortisol, the body’s primary stress hormone. When cortisol levels drop, your body can finally stop sounding the stress alarm every five minutes. In fact, a study from the International Journal of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis found that hypnosis can significantly reduce anxiety in as few as four sessions!

Additionally, MRI scans have shown that during hypnosis, the brain’s default mode network, (the area responsible for rumination and overthinking) becomes less active. This gives you the mental space to start focusing on solutions rather than problems. It is like taking the power cord out of that over-caffeinated squirrel’s coffee machine.☺️

In our sessions, we will focus on getting you into that deeply relaxed state where your brain is more open to positive suggestions. We will use metaphors, humour, and simple but powerful mental exercises to help you regain control over your thoughts. Whether you are dealing with general stress, work-related anxiety, or that anxious feeling you get when your phone buzzes at 3 a.m, hypnotherapy can help.

Together, we will retrain your brain to stop reacting like everything is a crisis and start responding calmly and rationally. And remember, this is not about fixing you, because there’s nothing broken.

 It is about helping you tap into the mental tools you already have—tools that just need a little dusting off.

We can work together to help your brain calm down, laugh a little, and find the peace it has been looking for. 

You’ve got this—and I am here to help.

Karen 😊

How Unlocking Your Potential Can Help You Move Forward

Are you feeling stuck? 

It can be one of the most frustrating experiences in life. 

Whether you’re trapped in a job that no longer fulfils you, a relationship that feels more like a cage than a comfort, or battling a persistent lack of confidence and self-belief, these feelings can be overwhelming. 

You might find yourself asking, “Is this all there is?” or “Why can’t I just move forward?” If these thoughts resonate with you, know that you’re not alone, I hear this from clients every day and there is a way to break free from these invisible chains, if you choose to!

Firstly, you need to understand the Feeling of Being Stuck.

When you feel stuck, it’s often because your mind is caught in a loop of negative thoughts and emotions. It’s comfortable there, it’s familiar with these feelings, it’s in no rush to change them. These loops can reinforce feelings of inadequacy, fear of change, and self-doubt, making it seem impossible to take the next step. Over time, this can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem, and a sense of hopelessness.

But here’s the thing, these loops are not permanent. They are just patterns of thinking that have become ingrained over time, and just as they were learned, they can be unlearned! You can create change no matter how old you are or what your circumstances are.

 Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy is an evidence-based approach, and it combines the therapeutic principles of positive psychology with deep relaxation and focus achieved through hypnosis. I don’t ask clients to focus on the past, we are concentrating on now and in the future. 

 This helps you envision the life you want and then supports you in taking practical steps to get there.

Here’s how it can help:

1.   Reprogramming Negative Thought Patterns: During hypnosis, your mind enters a state of heightened suggestibility, where it is more open to positive suggestions and new ways of thinking. This will allow you to break free from the negative loops that are keeping you stuck.

2.   Building Confidence and Self-Belief: By focusing on your strengths and past successes, hypnotherapy helps you reconnect with your inner resources. You’ll start to believe in your ability to overcome challenges and achieve your goals.

3.   Reducing Anxiety and Stress: Hypnotherapy promotes deep relaxation, which lowers stress levels and allows your mind to focus on solutions rather than problems. This state of calm clarity can help you see your situation from a totally new perspective.

4.   Creating a Clear Vision for the Future: Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy encourages you to imagine your ideal future in vivid detail. By visualising success, you are more likely to take the steps needed to make that vision a reality.

5.   Taking Practical Steps Towards Change: The sessions are designed to empower you to take action! You willl leave with practical tools and strategies that you can implement in to your daily life to start moving forward.

A Path to a Happier, More Fulfilled Life

Imagine waking up each day with a sense of purpose and direction, feeling confident in your ability to handle whatever comes your way. Picture yourself in a job that excites you, a relationship that nurtures you, and a life that truly makes you happy. This is not just a dream—it’s a possibility. ‘What if” it all goes well…

Summer is nearly over…

This Autumn are you ready to break free from what’s holding you back?

Through a tailored hypnotherapy program, we can work together to unlock your potential, boost your confidence, and help you create the life you deserve.

Reach Out Today You don’t have to stay stuck. You just need to decide to take control of your life and start moving forward. Is it important to you?

Contact me today to schedule a free initial consultation. In this 45 min – 1 hour session I will ask you questions to understand how to best help your personal situation, I will explain some neuro science surrounding how the brain works and why it is you feel the way you do so you can start building towards a brighter tomorrow.

Don’t wait… Karen

Unlocking A Positive Relationship With Your Body

July can be a time of year where we can be a little more body conscious. Maybe a beach holiday is planned and you would like to feel more confident in your mind and body? Maybe you want to feel more confident and at ease in your own skin.

Unlocking a Positive Relationship with Your Body:

 How Solution Focused Hypnotherapy Can Help

Our bodies are incredible, capable of remarkable feats, yet many of us struggle with how we feel about them. Whether it’s anxiety, low self-esteem, or negative self-image, these feelings can deeply affect our daily lives. 

Are you longing to make a positive change in how you feel about your body?

Understanding Solution Focused Hypnotherapy

Solution focused hypnotherapy is a modern therapeutic approach that combines the power of positive thinking with the deeply relaxing state of hypnosis. Unlike traditional therapy, which often delves into past traumas and problems, the approach I use emphasises your present strengths and future goals. We are finding solutions, not dwelling on problems.

Changing Your Thoughts

Our thoughts shape our reality. If you’re constantly thinking negatively about your body, it can create a cycle of self-criticism and unhappiness. I will work with you to break this cycle by encouraging positive thinking patterns. During a session, you’ll enter a state of deep relaxation where your mind becomes more open to positive suggestions and visualisations. This process helps you to reframe your thoughts, to focus on what you appreciate about your body and what you want to achieve.

Transforming Your Feelings

Thoughts and feelings are closely intertwined. By changing your thought patterns, solution focused hypnotherapy helps transform how you feel about your body. Hypnosis induces a state of calm and relaxation, reducing stress and anxiety. This peaceful state allows your subconscious mind to absorb positive affirmations about your body, fostering feelings of acceptance and self-love. Over time as we work together, you will find these positive feelings becoming more natural and ingrained.

Shifting Your Actions

As your thoughts and feelings about your body become more positive, your actions will start to align with this new mindset. You might find yourself making healthier choices, exercising more, or engaging in self-care activities that you may have previously avoided. Solution focused hypnotherapy empowers you to set realistic goals and take actionable steps towards them, reinforcing your positive relationship with your body.

The Neuroscience Behind Hypnotherapy

Neuroscience shows that our brains are capable of change no matter what age or background—a concept known as neuroplasticity. Solution focused hypnotherapy leverages this by helping to rewire your brain’s pathways. During hypnosis, your brain is more receptive to new ideas and suggestions, allowing you to form new, positive connections. This scientific basis is why hypnotherapy can be so effective in helping you think, feel, and act differently.

What to Expect in a Session

A typical weight management session will involve a combination of talking therapy and hypnosis. We’ll start by discussing your goals and what you’d like to achieve. Then, you’ll be guided into a state of relaxation. In this state, I’ll provide positive suggestions and visualisations tailored to your goals. You’ll leave each session feeling calm, empowered, and one step closer to the positive changes you desire.

Taking the First Step

If you’re ready to change how you feel about your body, solution focused hypnotherapy offers a compassionate and effective path forward. It’s about building on your strengths, envisioning a positive future, and taking actionable steps to make that vision a reality. Your body deserves your kindness and appreciation, and through hypnotherapy, you can start fostering that positive relationship today.

Are you ready to embark on this journey? 

Reach out for a 10 minute discovery call and if you’re ready lets book the initial consultation.

Let’s start transforming your relationship with your body. 

Your future self will thank you.

Karen 🙂 

Navigating Health Anxiety: 

A Path to Bravery, Happiness, and being Present

Understanding Health Anxiety

Working with so many variations of anxiety, has me wanting to address, Health anxiety. This is also known as illness anxiety disorder, it is characterised by an excessive preoccupation with having or acquiring a serious illness. 

For those affected, this concern often leads to frequent health checks, excessive doctor visits, and a persistent sense of worry, even when medical tests show no cause for alarm. Our brain is not satisfied with this and it’s alerting you to danger constantly.

When your own health or the health of a loved one is impacted, this anxiety can become overwhelming. You might find yourself caught in a cycle of fear and worry, unable to focus on the present or enjoy life’s everyday moments. However, there are ways to break this cycle and regain control over your thoughts and emotions.

The Power of Solution Focused Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy can be a powerful tool in managing health anxiety. By working with the subconscious mind, it helps you address the root causes of your anxiety, reframe the negative thoughts, and build healthier coping mechanisms. Here’s how hypnotherapy can help:

  • Reframing Negative Thoughts: I will coach you on how to identify and transform irrational fears about your health into more realistic and balanced thoughts. Through guided visualisation and positive suggestions, you can learn to view health concerns more rationally.
  • Reducing Anxiety: Hypnotherapy induces a state of deep relaxation, which can significantly reduce anxiety levels. This relaxation response counteracts the body’s stress response, helping you to feel calmer and more in control.
  • Building Resilience: By accessing your subconscious mind, I can help you build mental resilience. You’ll learn techniques to handle stress and anxiety more effectively, making you braver and more adaptable in the face of all health concerns.
  • Promoting Positive Behaviour Changes: I can help reinforce healthy behaviours and coping strategies, such as regular exercise, practicing mindfulness and discussing balanced nutrition, all of which contribute to overall well-being.

Practical Tools for Managing Health Anxiety

In addition to hypnotherapy, there are several practical tools and techniques you can use to manage health anxiety:

  • Mindfulness and Meditation: Mindfulness practices can help you stay present and reduce your overthinking. Simple techniques like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or guided meditations can be very effective.
  • Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings, ‘What’s been good” can help you process them and gain clarity. It can also be a way to track your progress.
  • Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep all contribute to physical and mental health, reducing overall anxiety levels.
  • Support Systems: Lean on friends, family, or support groups. Sharing your feelings with others can provide comfort and reduce feelings of isolation.

How to Feel Braver, Happier, and More Present

  • Face Your Fears Gradually: Take small steps to confront and manage your fears. Gradual exposure can help desensitise you to anxiety triggers and build confidence.
  • Practice Gratitude: Focus on the positives in your life. Keeping a gratitude journal can shift your mindset from worry to appreciation, promoting a sense of happiness and contentment.
  • Stay Connected: Engage in activities that bring you joy and connect you with others. Social interactions and hobbies can ground you in the present moment and provide a healthy distraction from anxiety.
  • Set Realistic Goals: Break tasks into manageable steps and celebrate small victories. Achieving these goals can boost your confidence and sense of accomplishment.

Taking the Next Step

If you’re struggling with health anxiety, know that help is available. I can offer support by using an effective approach to managing your fears and reclaiming your life. 

By addressing the subconscious roots of your anxiety and equipping you with practical tools, hypnotherapy can pave the way for a happier, braver, and more present you!

If you’re interested in exploring hypnotherapy further, don’t hesitate to reach out. Together, we can create a tailored approach that meets your unique needs and helps you navigate your journey with greater ease and confidence.

Best,

Karen 

Soar Above Your Fear of Flying

Soar Above Your Fear of Flying: Transform Your Journey with me using Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy.

Nearing the last few days in May has us thinking about Summer just around the corner. Holidays abroad…Are you one of the many people who feel a flutter of anxiety at the mere thought of boarding an airplane? You’re not alone. I work with all different types of phobias every week in my clinic and fear of flying, also known as Aviophobia, is a common phobia that can ground your travel plans and clip your wings. But what if I told you there is a way to transform those butterflies in your stomach, into a sense of calm and control? 

With solution-focused hypnotherapy, you can take flight with confidence.

Understanding the Fear of Flying

Fear of flying is more than just a little nervousness; it can be a crippling phobia that triggers intense anxiety, panic attacks, and avoidance behaviours. This fear can stem from various sources, such as fear of heights, fear of enclosed spaces, past traumatic experiences or a combination of all of these. Regardless of its origin, the impact on your life can be significant, limiting your ability to travel for work, visit loved ones, or explore new destinations.

The Butterfly Effect: A Metaphor for Transformation

Imagine the fear of flying as a caterpillar, slow-moving and earthbound. Now, picture yourself as a butterfly, free to soar high above, gliding effortlessly through the sky. This transformation is not only possible but within your reach. Solution-focused hypnotherapy can help you metamorphose from a state of fear to a state of freedom.

What is Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy?

Solution-focused hypnotherapy is a powerful approach that combines the principles of positive psychology with the deep relaxation and focus of hypnosis. Instead of dwelling on the root causes of your phobia, we focus on your desired future and the steps needed to achieve it. This forward-thinking method empowers you to harness your inner strengths and resources, creating lasting change.

How Hypnotherapy Can Help You Fly

  • Relaxation and Calm: Through guided relaxation techniques, hypnotherapy can help calm your mind and body, reducing the physical symptoms of anxiety.
  • Positive Visualisation: By visualising successful flights and positive outcomes, you can retrain your brain to associate flying with calmness and confidence.
  • Building Confidence: Hypnotherapy strengthens your belief in your ability to overcome fear, boosting your self-esteem and resilience.
  • Coping Strategies: I will teach you practical strategies to manage the anxiety, such as breathing exercises and mindfulness techniques, which you can use before and during flights.

Real Stories, Real Success

Many clients have found relief from their fear of flying through solution-focused hypnotherapy. One client described her transformation: “I used to feel paralysed at the thought of flying. After just four sessions, I felt a sense of calm and control I never thought possible. Now, I can visit my family abroad without fear.”

Take the First Step Towards Freedom

Overcoming a phobia can seem daunting, but with the right support, you can turn those butterflies into a symbol of your newfound freedom. Imagine being able to plan this year’s holiday without dread, to attend business trips with ease, or to simply enjoy the view from above.

Ready to Soar?

If you’re ready to transform your fear of flying into a journey of empowerment let’s work together to help you spread your wings and take flight!

Contact me today to schedule your free initial consultation, I will help you understand more about how your brain works and what it is that you can do about it.  Remember, you have the power to overcome this phobia and embrace the skies with confidence. You can do this!

Feel free to reach out with any questions or to book an appointment. Let’s start this transformative journey together. Your next adventure is just a session away!

Karen, Solution-Focused Hypnotherapist Burgess Hill & Online.

Helping you turn your fear into freedom, one flight at a time.

Conquer Exam Stress

This months blog is to support all the parents and carers of teens in exam time. 

Read it and share it with your kids and anyone else you feel it may help or support. 

I have many teens on a weekly basis who come to my clinic for support with stress and anxiety, from social anxiety to doing their driving test and many come feeling pressures of school and exams.

The mere mention of the word can send shivers down the spines of even the most confident teenagers.

 As a solution-focused hypnotherapist, I feel this is a poignant time to share some top tips and shed some light on how hypnotherapy can be their secret weapon in conquering exam stress. 

 First things first, let’s tackle the beast head-on. Exam stress is that polar bear feeling that creeps up when they least expect it. It’s that feeling of butterflies in the stomach, the racing thoughts, and the overwhelming pressure to perform so  we just need to remind our teens that they have way more power than they give themselves credit for! 

No 1. Breathe…

When stress starts to rear its ugly head,in the form of a polar bear or a monster or whatever it is our teens feel they’re dealing with, tell them to take a moment and  to breathe deeply. 

To inhale for four counts, hold for four, and exhale for four.

 Repeat this a few times, and watch as the body and mind start to relax. 

(parent or carer, you do this too).

 No 2 Break it Down…

 Don’t let the enormity of exams overwhelm them. Break the study sessions into manageable chunks and focus on one topic at a time. 

This will help prevent that feeling of being buried under a mountain of textbooks, especially if they really don’t connect with their teacher or subject. Remind them that they just need to get through it, they don’t ever have to love either the subject or the teacher but think about how amazing they will feel when they’ve passed and if they choose, they never need to do this subject again. Ironically this mind shift can often make them realise they don’t actually hate the subject after all.

No 3 Move the Body…

Exercise isn’t just good for your physical health; it’s also a powerful stress-buster. Take regular breaks to stretch, go for a walk, or indulge in a quick dance around their bedroom. 

Parent/Carer, you do this too, your brain will thank you for it!

No 4 Laugh it off…

Laughter truly is the best medicine. 

Watching a funny movie, scrolling through some hilarious memes, or sharing a joke with their friends. Humour has a magical way of melting stress away. 

For all of you.

No 5 Visualise Success…

Closing their eyes and imagining how they’re  going to ace that exam with confidence. 

Picturing themselves walking out of the exam hall with a big smile on their face, knowing that they gave it their all.

Visualisation can be a powerful tool in boosting self-belief, allowing the brain to focus on success not failure. 

The Magic of Hypnotherapy:

Now, let’s talk about the not-so-secret weapon against exam stress: hypnotherapy. 

It’s a scientifically proven technique that taps into the power of the subconscious mind to promote relaxation, focus, and confidence. Through hypnotherapy, I can support your teens to rewire those negative thought patterns that fuel exam stress and to replace them with positive affirmations. 

I can teach them techniques to support their mind to stay calm and centered, even in the midst of exam chaos and best of all, I can help them to unleash their full potential to allow them to perform at their very best.

Studies have shown that hypnotherapy can significantly reduce anxiety levels in students, improve concentration and memory retention, and boost overall academic performance. 

I encourage them to imagine walking into that exam room feeling cool, calm, and collected, knowing that they have the tools to succeed.

So, as they navigate the turbulent waters of exam season, remind them that they are not alone. 

With the right mindset, a sprinkle of humour, and the power of hypnotherapy on their side, they can conquer exam stress and emerge victorious. 

To discuss how I can support your teen through their exam journey, I offer a free initial consultation, online or in person so they have a no obligation opportunity to decide if they’d like to proceed. 

I work with neuro typical and neuro diverse teens.

They are already super hero’s, they just don’t know it yet! 

As a parent with 2 teenagers going through GCSE’s and A level exams next year I am using the above advice for myself and my kids.

Best,

Karen 😊

Unlocking Financial Freedom

Navigating Your Subconscious Mind


Feeling stuck financially can be like navigating through a maze with no clear exit.
Causing us to feel stress and anxiety about every cost, bills, groceries, childcare to
name but a few but what if I told you the key to unlocking financial freedom lies
within the depths of your subconscious mind.


As a solution-focused hypnotherapist, let me help you embark on a journey to
understand how to manage those persistent subconscious emotions to help you to
pave the way to financial ease and prosperity.


First, we have to understand that our subconscious mind is like a vast ocean, holding
the power that shapes our beliefs, behaviours, and emotions. When it comes to
finances, deeply ingrained beliefs about money can either propel us towards
success, or hold us back in a cycle of scarcity and fear, making us confident or
cautious in our decision making.


What if you can Light the Path to Solutions?

  1. Rewrite Your Money Story: Take a moment to reflect on your beliefs about
    money. Are they serving you positively or holding you back? Through
    hypnotherapy, we can work together to reframe the negative beliefs into
    empowering ones, paving the way for ease and abundance.
  2. Set Clear Financial Goals: Break down your financial aspirations into
    tangible, achievable goals. Whether it’s paying off debt, saving for a dream
    holiday or investing in your future, clarity and awareness breeds confidence
    and action.
  3. Practice Visualisation: Harness the power of visualisation to manifest your
    financial desires. Close your eyes and imagine yourself living your ideal
    financial life – feeling abundant, secure, and free from financial worries.
    Embodying these emotions helps to reprogram your subconscious mind for
    success. Even if you feel as though it’s just pretending right now, do it anyway,
    because your mind doesn’t know the difference between imagination and
    reality. When you feel good you release those positive chemicals, helping you
    feel happy and relaxed allowing you to come up with solutions instead of
    problems.
  4. Create a Budget and Stick to It: Take control of your finances by creating a
    budget that aligns with your goals and values. Track your expenses, identify
    areas for improvement, and allocate resources wisely to ensure financial
    stability and growth.
  5. Practice Gratitude: Cultivate an attitude of gratitude towards your current
    financial situation, no matter how challenging it may seem, small incremental
    steps to begin with. Gratitude shifts your focus from scarcity to abundance,
    opening the floodgates for more blessings to flow into your life.

Actions to Take Today:
– Start a journal and jot down three things you’re grateful for each day, including
any small financial victories. Your favourite coffee on offer in the supermarket,
a 2-for-1 offer in a restaurant, that £5 note you found in your coat pocket.
– Set aside dedicated time each week to review your finances, track your
progress, and adjust your strategies as needed. This visual reminder will keep
you on track.
– Practice mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, this
will help to quiet the noise of financial worries and connect with a sense of
inner peace and abundance. Listen to my free audio on the website to aid you
into restful relaxation.

Remember, You Hold the Key: As a solution-focused Hypnotherapist, I’m here to
guide you on this transformative journey towards financial freedom, through stress
reduction, confidence building, self-belief and increased motivation. Together, we’ll
unlock the potential of your subconscious mind, to dissolve limiting beliefs, and pave
the way for a future filled with prosperity, abundance, and joy.
You see, the power to shape your financial future, lies within you.


Let’s embark on this journey together and watch as your dreams turn into reality.
To discuss this or any other topic in your life that may be holding you back from
being your best self, message me to book a free initial consultation, either in person
or online.


Be the change you wish to see!


Karen

My Super Power!

What does Confidence mean to you? Unlocking Confidence: A Journey Within

It’s not about being that person in the room who attracts everyone’s attention, it’s not about being the prettiest, smartest, fittest.

It’s a word we often hear, but what does it truly mean to you? Is it the unwavering belief in yourself, your abilities, or your worth? Confidence extends its reach into every aspect of our lives – from our work to our relationships. Yet, it often finds its roots in the depths of our inner selves and self-esteem.

Confidence in Yourself:
At its core, confidence in oneself is about knowing and trusting your own capabilities. It’s that inner assurance that whispers, “I’ve got this.” It’s the belief that you can handle whatever challenges life throws your way, whether it’s tackling a new project at work or navigating through personal obstacles.

Confidence in Your Work:
In the realm of work, confidence can manifest as the courage to take risks, share ideas, and pursue opportunities for growth. It’s about embracing challenges as learning experiences and believing in your capacity to succeed. When you exude confidence in your work, you inspire trust and respect from colleagues and superiors alike.

Confidence in Your Relationships:
In relationships, confidence translates into authenticity and vulnerability. It’s the ability to express yourself openly and honestly, without fear of judgment or rejection. Confident individuals are secure in their worth and can cultivate healthy connections built on mutual respect and understanding.

Inner Self and Self-Esteem:
Confidence is intimately linked with our inner selves and self-esteem. While confidence is about belief in our abilities, self-esteem is the overall sense of our own worth and value. Nurturing a positive self-esteem lays the foundation for unwavering confidence, enabling us to weather storms and celebrate victories with equal grace.

Internal Chat:
Internal chat, often referred to as self-talk, plays a pivotal role in shaping our confidence levels. Positive internal dialogue acts as a cheerleader, boosting our morale and reinforcing our belief in ourselves. Conversely, negative self-talk can chip away at our confidence, feeding doubts and insecurities, so I work closely with clients to over come this.

So what Tipsdo I recommend for Daily Practice:
1. Cultivate Awareness: Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions. Notice when self-doubt creeps in and recognise it, challenge negative beliefs with affirmations of your worth and capabilities, even if you don’t believe it at first.
2. Identify Your Values: Clarify what’s truly important to you in your life and align your actions with your values. When your choices reflect your core beliefs, confidence naturally follows.
3. Overcome Overthinking: Practice mindfulness techniques to quiet the chatter of an overactive mind. Focus on the present moment and let go of worries about the past or future, solution focused Hypnotherapy supports you in doing this

4. Embrace “I Can’t” Moments: Recognise that moments of doubt or failure are opportunities for growth. Shift your mindset from “I can’t” to “I can learn and improve.”
5. Always Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. You’d think nothing of doing this for a friend, colleague or child so you should also do it for yourself. Each success reinforces your belief in yourself and builds momentum towards greater accomplishments.

**Awareness: What’s Important to You?**
Ultimately, confidence is not just about external achievements but about nurturing a deep sense of self-assurance and worth. It’s about knowing who you are, what you stand for, and embracing your journey with courage and resilience.

So, the next time you find yourself wrestling with self-doubt, remember confidence begins within. Cultivate a positive internal dialogue, practice self-compassion, and trust in your innate abilities. As you embark on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment, may you find the confidence to shine brightly in every facet of your life.

As a clinical solution focused Hypnotherapist, I support clients every day with increasing their confidence.


If you would like to chat more about how I can support you book a free initial consultation and we can put a plan in place so you can shine brightly too.

Best, Karen x

New Year, Same You But Happier

January 2024. A new year doesn’t have to be daunting. It doesn’t have to be full of new intentions to be richer, fitter, more focused, with bigger goals and ideas.

These are all super things to do if that excites you but what if you’re over halfway through the month and you feel exhausted already, you see all these positive posts on social media you hear all this chat about good intentions and you feel like you’ve not lifted your head due to the never ending to-do-list and you already feel stressed about the year ahead!

How about if you STOP for a moment and plan to be HAPPY. 

Start there. Then we ask ourselves, what does that look like for me?

What small steps am I taking each day to support MY happiness?

Do you know?

Me personally, I’m upping my training for my half marathon in February, I get up and out in the am, making the time for me. I’m running 3-4 times per week and that makes me happy, Hah, even writing this seems odd as this was not always my story, I really needed to change the old habit. I. told myself, I’m not sporty, I can’t run, I’m asthmatic, running isn’t for me, It’s still not easy to get out, but when I do I know I never regret going, I have set my intention, I create the time for myself to do it and feel the achievement when it’s done! 

Whether I run for 30 mins or for an hour and 30 mins it doesn’t matter. 

I’m letting go of the outcome of the Marathon-day itself, as I will think about that at the time. 

For Omara, it’s been my first online Hypnotherapy for weight loss course. Something I talked about doing then talked myself out of for months. This Thursday is week 4 of 4 and I’m enjoying it immensely, I think the clients are too! 

It’s been interesting to hear them talk about good things they are implementing in their lives to create positive change, not just around food but around their daily thoughts & practices, in a solution focused way.

Recognising their want to resist acting in ways they used to, 

recognising that acceptance creates awareness.

We often reprimand ourselves for actions that we take, wishing we behaved differently, telling ourselves that’s just the way we are, I always over eat, I always get angry, I could never do that, this can cause us to quit and confine ourselves to knowing these are the wrong decisions yet keep doing them anyway.

Accepting that it’s not easy to change habits (even if we know they are habits that are not serving us) but setting ourselves intentions of “I can’ and ‘I will’ do better than I did yesterday, for now, that is enough!

Our subconscious mind likes the habits we have formed to stay exactly as they are thank-you very much, telling us no change is required! 

It’s vigilant, its content with the current norm, but the question you need to ask yourself is ‘are you?’

Take away your subconscious minds power, recognise that it’s trying to protect you but let it know you’ve got this, you’re in control. Decide to do what you need to do to support you.

Look at your year ahead, with the intention of increasing your happiness.

What do you do currently, what did you do in the past that you loved and quit, what will you do in the future when you don’t have fear or worry or lack of confidence?

What positive changes will you choose to make?

Not because you’re reprimanding yourself, in-fact quite the opposite, it’s because you just don’t need or want to do that anymore. 

Over eating, smoking/vaping, procrastinating, catastrophising, over thinking, the list goes on.

What would you like to experience instead?

What areas of your life could be better?

I offer a free initial consultation, in person and online.

I work with clients who are managing these feelings every day and we see fast effective results. 

If you’re ready to have a smashing 2024 but just need a little direction to find the right route, message me so I can explain more about how Hypnotherapy can help you achieve that. 

Let go and find the you that you want to be.

Love,

Karen   

My Checklist of Needs I’m Sharing With You

Hooray, we’ve made it to the last month of another year, well done us!

We all have our own story to tell about 2023, the highs, lows, things you’ll choose to remember, things you’ll choose to forget. 

Struggles, needs, goals, successes.

Reflection is an opportunity for you to choose how you want to move forward, to make a decision on what you’ll focus on next year.

This year has been my deepest journey of self-awareness yet.

I want to share with you some of my secrets:

Letting Go

It’s not about who shouts the loudest, who’s most appreciated, who gets the last word. I say this as a parent and a partner, I used to feel angry, frustrated, unappreciated if I were tired angry or overwhelmed. 

Causing me to lash out. 

That wasn’t working for me, so I changed tactics.

Now, I walk away from frustrating situations, distract myself by doing something that makes me feel better, choosing to handle it later, when I’m calmer, allowing me time to feel able to say what I want to say.

Self Care

Exercise and running are number one for me for my self-care. Creating a goal of a half marathon has kept me focused on training and knowing I’m going on holiday to Sri-Lanka next year gives me a positive visualisation on how I want to see myself on the beach. 

I’ve also loved my first year in a choir and really embraced the live singing at fairs and theatres this month. Singing makes me happy.

My husband and I have started to have regular Reflexology sessions, not only is this a wonderful ritual for my mind and body but it’s something we have really enjoyed doing together. 

Learning

This has been and interesting one. We can find ourselves settled in the busyness of life sometimes having a block in learning new things, a block caused by fear, doubt, overthinking but we’re never too old to learn something new. Being open to how and why you want to learn sets a path of discovery, creating new neuro pathways in the brain. I continue to learn through reading, podcasts, audios and so much more as I want to educate myself and my clients, I want them to know tips and techniques on how to best support themselves.

Visualisation

I make plans for what I want to achieve for myself and my future. My ‘What ifs’ are invested in what good looks like. I write my goals down so I can see which way I’m heading. Our brains don’t know the difference between imagination and reality so make the picture the best one you can imagine.

Self-Awareness 

We should always be working on this. How are my 3P’s, Positive thoughts, positive interactions and positive actions? Am I acting in an intellectual mind manner? Am I reacting because of previous negative patterns, and do I want to change that? 

This has supported me in not overreacting, so I can stay focused and calm, most of the time!

Our subconscious minds are always listening. So, what ever story you tell yourself your internal genie says, “your wish is my command!”

Hypnotherapy supports your subconscious mind. 

Allowing it to work with you and not against you.

Nothing changes if nothing changes!

Have you lost your way? 

Do you overthink, procrastinate, self-doubt? 

Do you need to implement some of my strategies?

I am now aware of the direction I’m taking towards my happiness and these secrets are mine for sharing. I have regular support so I can support you.

My sessions will always have a section for brain revision so you can learn something new each time. 

Habits take time to form, its up to you how quickly you choose to make that happen.

Be the change you want to see.

Make this new year your best one yet.

Karen