
Specialising in supporting clients with confidence and low self-esteem I often chat with them about their inner dialogue, the language they use to communicate with themselves about themselves, their needs, their beliefs, what matters to them.
Every day, thousands of thoughts pass through our minds, about 80,000 each day, like clouds drifting across the sky. But not all of them land.
It’s the ones we give our attention and energy to that truly shape how we feel, behave, and experience life, these ones fill up like balloons using up space within our minds.
Our internal dialogue—what we say to ourselves when no one else is listening—plays a vital role in shaping our confidence and our capability and as we think so many thoughts we might not even be aware of how many harmful and repetitive ones there really are.
It becomes the background music to our lives, and like any tune on repeat, it can either lift us up or weigh us down.
If you tell yourself “I can’t change”, “I used to be able to do that but not anymore”, “that wouldn’t be possible for someone like me”, your subconscious mind is listening, it is eavesdropping on your every thought.
And it believes you!
In fact it wants to please you so it allows you to think that thought is the truth.
If you say “I’ve always been this way,” your mind will look for evidence to confirm it.
Even phrases like “I don’t want to feel like this,” though well-intentioned, focus your energy on what you don’t want—and your subconscious mind doesn’t do well with negatives. It hears “feel like this” and thinks, “Ah, this is where we’re staying.”
Your Brain Believes What You Rehearse
The subconscious mind operates like a faithful assistant—it doesn’t judge or question, it simply acts on repetition and belief.
Neuroscience shows us that what we focus on literally wires the brain. This is called neuroplasticity, and it’s one of the most hopeful discoveries in modern psychology: the brain can change.
Every time you choose to focus on a helpful, forward-focused thought—“I am learning how to cope,” or “Change is possible for me,”—you strengthen neural pathways that support resilience, confidence, and growth.
Shift the Lens: Perspective, Visualisation & Forward Focus
How we see a situation influences how we feel in it.
This is perspective—and it can be shaped.
- Perspective reminds us that thoughts aren’t facts. Just because we think something doesn’t make it true. We can challenge, reframe, and soften our internal dialogue.
- Visualisation is powerful. When we imagine ourselves succeeding, feeling calmer, or handling a situation well, the brain lights up as if we’re actually doing it. This mental rehearsal helps train our subconscious to expect success.
- Forward focus keeps us out of rumination and regret. It gently steers our attention to what we can do next, rather than what went wrong. What if we see the past as knowledge and experience rather than regret.
- This is where transformation begins.
The Thoughts That Matter Most
Not every thought deserves your attention. Some are old echoes, habits from the past. It’s the ones you choose to notice, the ones you dwell on—those are the ones that become your reality!
When we stop feeding the unhelpful thoughts and start becoming aware of the ones that bring hope, calm, or possibility, we change the way the brain fires.
New pathways grow. New patterns emerge and with consistency, new habits of thought take root.
Self-hypnosis.
The Takeaway
You don’t have to believe every thought you think. You get to choose the ones that serve you.
Speak to yourself with kindness, with possibility, with hope.
Not because everything is perfect—but because your words shape your mind, and your mind shapes your life.
If you find yourself saying, “I’ve always been this way”, gently add, “… I don’t have to stay this way, I can and I will create change.
Because your subconscious is always listening.
And it believes you.
Want to know more about how solution focused hypnotherapy can help you?
Message me to book your free initial consultation. In every initial consultation I will explain how the brain works and why it is you feel the way you do. You are not alone.
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Best,
Karen.